Tag: Reciprocity

Relationship Scorecard

March 11, 2021

Marietta, GA – Relationship Scorecard

Relationships are important to our human experience on earth. Good relationships can promote happiness, inclusion and belonging. Time passes easily with great relationships. Poor relationships, on the other hand, can be absolutely debilitating to our emotional and physical health. Ask someone about a crazy ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend. How about a fantastic boss or that manager from hell. It’s amazing how relationships can be so complicated and encompassing. Family, friends, classmates, teammates, coworkers, and even social media “likes” belong to us as relationships. Some are positive, some are negative. Some are influential and some are detrimental. Can relationships be quantified?  Measured?  We can quickly size up the value of a relationship as to whether or not someone is worthy of our time, love or commitment.

Here is a super easy scorecard that can be applied to every relationship. It’s an easy “yes” or “no” answer to 5 questions that if answered honestly, will give you a positive (+) or negative (-) score of an individual’s relationship with YOU. Ask yourself these 5 questions and honestly score your results.  Avoid anyone that doesn’t at least have a positive rating. Better yet, surround yourself with people who score +3 or better.

Relationship Scorecard (value). Place a (+) or (-) by each component variable. 

How do you feel about a relationship with someone? Add these answers for a total between +5 and -5. 

__ Respect?  “admiration for someone’s abilities, qualities, or achievements”

__ Relevance? “being closely associated, connected or appropriate”

__ Reciprocity? “practice of exchanging things with others for mutual benefit”

__ Empathy? “understanding the feelings of another person”

__ Encouragement? “Giving or receiving support, confidence or hope”

Total ____ Relationship Value

Your friend,

Bryan

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Relationships and Reciprocity

August 18, 2020

Marietta, GA – Relationships and Reciprocity

Author David Nour (www.nourgroup.com) lives in Atlanta, GA and I had the privilege to hear him speak a few years ago at a Vistage summit. He has written extensively about the value of key relationships and the importance of investing in your private and public networks.

If “Time is Money” as Ben Franklin famously stated in the 1700’s then our relationships have value too because we spend time with our friends, family and work associates. I am working on an equation that depicts the value of our relationships. If there is a time value of money equation, why can’t there be a formula for placing a value on our investment in others? Reciprocity is the result of our investment.  We get back what we put into our relationships.

Richard Koch (www.richardkoch.net), another favorite author of mine from Great Britain, calls our relationships a network of strong and weak links that connects us as individuals and “maps” the degrees of separation that define our social reach. In his book, “SuperConnect”, Koch explains how our strong and weak connections, reach beyond our core group of individuals that we are closest to.

Some relationships have a very small sphere of influence whereas some individuals in our network have massive reach. Koch calls these individuals superconnectors. The key ingredient that connects relationships and reciprocity seems to be our reputation. We are known by our reputation and associations. Guard both carefully my friends.

Bryan

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