Tag: relationships
Stop whining and start winning
Tampa, FL – Stop whining and start winning
Winners create a mindset that happens when incremental choices become their being. Winners might lose a big game, miss an important shot or even have a business fail. But winners don’t make excuses or whine, they learn from mistakes or failures and grow. They analyze what to work on and focus on becoming better for when the opportunity comes again.
Winners expect a positive result and do not rely on hope. They create their own destiny by incremental improvements every single day. Start winning and stop whining.
#EncourageExceptionalism
To your success,
Bryan
Overcoming Fear
Marietta, GA: Overcoming Fear is Courage
I was rereading Jack London’s classic, White Fang and the recurring theme of fear, courage and struggle which is depicted so clearly and beautifully.
We develop courage when we confront our fears and adversity. Life can be harsh at times, focusing on being on task in the moment which grounds our thinking. Don’t let anxiety and fear take root.
#Encouragement
Bryan
Make Encouragement a Habit
Relationomics
Kennesaw, GA – Relationomics
“Facebook is everyone else’s highlight reel.”
– Dr. Randy Ross
Dr. Ross presented his latest book at a luncheon in Marietta, GA in 2020 and I was able to speak with him afterwards. Our relationships are found beyond our physical reach as Facebook has shown us. We watch others, others watch us. Developing strong bonds with a few good relationships can extend way beyond just “who you know” to include “who knows you”, and your reputation via relationships.
#Encouragement
Bryanewilson@gmail.com
PS. Bryan Jostworth is more than a great brother in law. He’s also a terrific role model in being a great relationship builder. I have quietly watched his integrity over thirty years and can say with certainty that we are known by our relationships and not by words alone.
Relationship Scorecard
Marietta, GA – Relationship Scorecard
Relationships are important to our human experience on earth. Good relationships can promote happiness, inclusion and belonging. Time passes easily with great relationships. Poor relationships, on the other hand, can be absolutely debilitating to our emotional and physical health. Ask someone about a crazy ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend. How about a fantastic boss or that manager from hell. It’s amazing how relationships can be so complicated and encompassing. Family, friends, classmates, teammates, coworkers, and even social media “likes” belong to us as relationships. Some are positive, some are negative. Some are influential and some are detrimental. Can relationships be quantified? Measured? We can quickly size up the value of a relationship as to whether or not someone is worthy of our time, love or commitment.
Here is a super easy scorecard that can be applied to every relationship. It’s an easy “yes” or “no” answer to 5 questions that if answered honestly, will give you a positive (+) or negative (-) score of an individual’s relationship with YOU. Ask yourself these 5 questions and honestly score your results. Avoid anyone that doesn’t at least have a positive rating. Better yet, surround yourself with people who score +3 or better.
Relationship Scorecard (value). Place a (+) or (-) by each component variable.
How do you feel about a relationship with someone? Add these answers for a total between +5 and -5.
__ Respect? “admiration for someone’s abilities, qualities, or achievements”
__ Relevance? “being closely associated, connected or appropriate”
__ Reciprocity? “practice of exchanging things with others for mutual benefit”
__ Empathy? “understanding the feelings of another person”
__ Encouragement? “Giving or receiving support, confidence or hope”
Total ____ Relationship Value
Your friend,
Bryan
More Reading.
It Turns Out There Is A Formula For Improving Relationships
Relationship ROI: What Are Your Friendships Really Costing You?
Relationships and Reciprocity
Marietta, GA – Relationships and Reciprocity

Author David Nour (www.nourgroup.com) lives in Atlanta, GA and I had the privilege to hear him speak a few years ago at a Vistage summit. He has written extensively about the value of key relationships and the importance of investing in your private and public networks.

If “Time is Money” as Ben Franklin famously stated in the 1700’s then our relationships have value too because we spend time with our friends, family and work associates. I am working on an equation that depicts the value of our relationships. If there is a time value of money equation, why can’t there be a formula for placing a value on our investment in others? Reciprocity is the result of our investment. We get back what we put into our relationships.
Richard Koch (www.richardkoch.net), another favorite author of mine from Great Britain, calls our relationships a network of strong and weak links that connects us as individuals and “maps” the degrees of separation that define our social reach. In his book, “SuperConnect”, Koch explains how our strong and weak connections, reach beyond our core group of individuals that we are closest to.
Some relationships have a very small sphere of influence whereas some individuals in our network have massive reach. Koch calls these individuals superconnectors. The key ingredient that connects relationships and reciprocity seems to be our reputation. We are known by our reputation and associations. Guard both carefully my friends.
Bryan
#Encouragement
#Reciprocity
@DavidNour
@RichardKoch
Relationships are Human Capital
KENNESAW – Do you really value your professional and personal relationships? I had an opportunity to meet David Nour, www.davidnour.com in 2010 to discuss his book, Relationship Economics (Amazon). Not only was David fascinating to talk to, but his application of social media to promote his activities and capabilities is spectacular. He argues that all relationships have value, either positive or negative. Inventory your relationships and make the most of the positive ones in your life.
Relationships become the human capital of our lives and either make us stronger or weaker, richer or poorer. Nurturing good relationships and shedding bad ones should become second nature to us. If you want to reach the next level in your personal and business life, then invest in good relationships. Give of yourself to help others be successful and it will return huge benefits, not only to you, but to the world.
This becomes the foundation for the 80/20 lifestyle. Twenty percent of the relationships of our lives determine eighty percent of our life’s outcome. Focus on strengthening the good relationships in our business and personal lives and shedding the bad ones. It shouldn’t be hard determining which ones are which.
Encourage Excellence today with one of your close friends.
#NcouragExcellence
Bryan
Stranger Danger: How to Keep a New Hire from Becoming an Unfamiliar Face
By: Suzanne Ostrander
-Kennesaw, GA You feel like you’ve missed the memo, but unfortunately there was no memo to begin with. In fact, that’s kind of the problem.
It all started two weeks ago on a Monday morning. You thought the unfamiliar face who showed up at your meeting might have been an auditor. You give a friendly smile to the same gentleman as you pass him by in the break room the next morning, because hey- you always want your visitors to feel welcome! When returning from lunch on Wednesday afternoon, you are somewhat surprised to still see him roaming the halls carrying what seems to be an important stack of papers and an even greater sense of urgency. Once again, smiles are exchanged by both parties, as you secretly think to yourself “this guy must be a big deal”! Thursday rolls by uneventfully and the next thing you know it’s quitting time on Friday and you’re the last one to leave the office.
Or so you thought….
Like an eerie movie, you notice an unfamiliar, dark sedan next to yours in the parking lot. Who else is here? Curiously, you begin walking up and down the halls. Nothing seems out of place, until you get to the last cubicle on the left. That’s when you see it. Apparently, the friendly yet relatively ambiguous man who you took to be an auditor, is now sipping on the company coffee in his own office.
He is neither an auditor, nor is he here to clean the toilets. Congratulations, he is your new colleague.
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Have you ever found yourself in a similar situation in your own office? The above example was written from the perspective of a clueless employee, but I can only imagine what it would be like for the new hire himself. Starting up a new job can be scary enough. It’s even worse when you’re “thrown to the wolves” and surrounded by nothing other than unidentified faces.
A successful company is not just about training employees to execute tasks. While the notion of productivity is important, we can only go so far in our career endeavors without an underlying network of strong relationships established by kindness and strengthened through trust.
Many of these relationships begin on your first day at the company. It rests on the shoulders of management to properly introduce any new employee in his group, albeit full-time, part-time, temporary, hourly, or contractor. Of course, managers might not always be able to identify every vendor, prospective client, or job candidate who walks into the front door. If they have an email address, however, the “worker bees” need to know who they are.
Announcing a new hire can be easily achieved via a company memo (you know…the ones you always miss?) or a casual, yet informative quick announcement in an office-wide meeting.
Timing is essential, though. Experts say that this should probably be done on the first day. Therefore, if a manager does not get an opportunity to gather everybody for an announcement on a new hire’s first day, he should take five minutes to send out an email to introduce the newest member of the group and make him or her feel welcome.
Earlier, I mentioned the aspect of trust to be the single, most unifying force in all relationships. How can this failure to welcome a new employee damage both the new hire’s sense of trust for the company, as well as the rest of the employees’ trust for the company?
There are many ways, really. To begin with though, the new employee may begin to question how much faith the company has invested in him or her. Perhaps it could make the new team member think that, despite being hired, management may not be expecting them to make it very long.
Let’s flip the coin, and view the scenario once again from the perspective of the confused and uninformed employees. At first, many employee’s may simply assume they “missed the boat” (a return to the repeated”missed memo” theme). Maybe they were on the phone with a client or daydreaming in a staff meeting. Who knows, maybe they just had to go to the bathroom!!! Yet, I imagine that once this event continues to occur with new people throughout the office, the other employees will start to notice management’s failure to explain who the man in the suit is sitting next to them. Other employees may also begin to wonder how much faith management has in the newest addition. They may even wonder if they were excluded from the announcement, because their position was perceived as irrelevant to the new hire’s. Nevertheless, in all scenarios, management’s failure to introduce their new hire has likely created a stir, not to mention confusion among the rest of the workers.
The solution? Always welcome and properly introduce your new employees! No excuses. We never get a second chance to make a first impression, and new-hires who start out on the right foot are most likely to make long-term commitments to their companies!
As always, remember to encourage excellence with everybody you interact with! A friendly gesture or simple act of kindness can result in 20-years or more of employee loyalty!! Sounds like a fair exchange to me!
God Bless,
Suzanne
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Relationships are the network
When I worked for Sun Microsystems, we had a tag line, “The network is the computer”. Well our relationships are our network that becomes our reputation and ultimately, our character.
I’m reading Michael Ellsberg’s book entitled, The Education of Millionaires. In it Ellsberg cites interviews with successful people who have learned how to leverage relationships to achieve success. Remember my favorite author, Richard Koch? He methodically and scientifically lays out how loose connections in our relationship network ties us to our accomplishments.
I urge you to read more Michael Ellsberg and apply what he advises.
PS. I haven’t forgotten my friend, Perry Robinson. Putting some things together for him now for his new business venture.